When You’ve Worked On Yourself To The Point of Avoidance

by Mona on April 18, 2010

Have you worked on yourself so much over the years…

That sometimes the thought of doing *more* work on yourself
just seems hard, and painful so you don’t want to do it?

I’ve been there too…

But Inner Work can totally be fun!

In fact, it’s my new #1 rule for working on myself:

Only if it feels good and is fun.

Oh, and it has to be easy too…

I’m *so* done with stressing myself out about something
that’s supposed to help me be less stressed.

Know what I mean?

So I only do Inner Work that’s fun, easy, and feels good
now.

Woo-Hoo!

I love what my friend Diana said on Twitter along the same
lines:

“If you’re not enjoying your healing process, then you’re not healing.”

Yes!

Healing should feel good and be enjoyable.

So, what I want to suggest is this…

If the thought of working on yourself hurts, seems hard, or
makes you want to eat a cupcake or watch TV for hours…

The stuff you’ve been doing hasn’t actually been Healing
Work…

It’s been Stressing Work.

That’s why you still feel yucky even after you’ve done all
this work on yourself.

Ugh.

No more of that, k?

What if you choose to make sure that any Inner Work you do
from now on is fun, feels good, and is easy?

That’s what I’m all about these days…

And I’ve been having such nice healing experiences…

Like, last night I spent the evening outside in my yard…

Which may not sound like a very big deal…

But I was in the Dark.

Alone.

I used to be afraid of the Dark.

(I mean it – I’d had this low-level anxiety about it for
about as long as I can remember…)

But because of the fun new inner work I’ve been doing with
myself…

And the new inner freedoms it’s giving me…

I was able to enjoy spending time in my yard at night by
myself…

For the first time. Ever.

And it happened because I changed the way I do my Inner
Work.

I had so much fun in my Garden Lounge.

Here’s a picture of it during the day – since my
iPhone doesnt’ take pictures well at night:

My Garden Lounge today.  on Twitpic

The other way I’d been doing it (by stressing myself out and
overdoing it) didn’t work.

Bringing enjoyment, play, fun, and creativity into my Inner
Work *did*.

So how about you?

Are you curious about how your Inner Work could be more fun?

Are you curious about how you can “work on your stuff” and
enjoy it?

Leave a comment and tell me what you’re thinking about all this…

But only write to me if it would be fun, okay? :-)

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Giulietta April 18, 2010 at 4:04 pm

Mona,

lovely Garden Lounge. cool name for it. Perhaps, if you called it “Inner Play” it might not seem like the dreaded work. My world is one giant play pen!

Thx, Giulietta
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Margaret April 18, 2010 at 9:57 pm

Thanks for the post which I found the link to on FB.
“You move away from reality when you believe there is a legitimate reason to suffer ” kt
Lovely way of taking it all a little more lightly and I love having fun.

Being thankful also works for me

Is it really a RULE???

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